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Key Growth Areas for Anxiously Attached Individuals by Above the Middle Photograph by  Designecologist  on Pexels In a world where it would be great if we can all live securely in love, anxious and avoidant attachments ruin the fun. The two attachment styles, coined by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth now plague 21st Century romance. It’s not uncommon to hear a friend talk about their attachment issues or the reason their dates aren’t leading anywhere because of someone else’s. The anxious attachment style describes individuals who attach easily to their partners and rely on them repeatedly for reassurance and comfort. It is believed that a caregiver relationship where the child’s independence wasn’t championed, or one where the parent was sometimes there and sometimes not is the reason for this attachment style. As the infant’s mind sees everything as relating to themselves, they see this inconsistency as a reflection of their worth. They, therefore, don’t learn and aren’t taug...

Mental Health Mondays: 6 Signs of a Healthy Friendship by Alison Cook As you listen to this podcast series on friendship, you may realize that you don’t have many healthy friendships. Facing this reality can be scary at first; it takes tremendous courage to recognize unhealthy patterns. That awareness may lead you into a period of adjustment and uncertainty. It’s hard to disentangle from one kind of relationship when you don’t yet know what a healthier one will look like. Transition can feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad place to be.        Transition periods are an opportunity to learn more about what you desire and need out of friendship. Here are 6 healthy signs to look for: 1. Honesty Does this person show that they want what’s best for you, even if that means telling you what may be difficult for you to hear? This doesn’t mean they criticize you about things that bother them . This means they care enough about your well-being to tell you when...

Opioid Crisis Friday: Real Life Stories of People Affected by Opioid Usage. The Real Life Story of Stevi Rae Stevi Rae has been in recovery for two and a half years and credits going through treatment with other Alaska Natives as key to her recovery journey. Raised in Naknek, Alaska, Stevi Rae grew up commercial and subsistence fishing. She was first introduced to prescription opioids after she survived a car crash and doctors prescribed her opioids to manage her pain. She says that she quickly became addicted and persuaded her doctors to prescribe her extra medication to last several months since she would be unable to return for follow-up visits. Stevi Rae soon began buying prescription opioids illegally and eventually started using heroin and methamphetamines. A year later, she felt like she would do anything to get opioids and couldn’t stop. She sought treatment in Dillingham, Alaska because there were no options in Naknek. In treatment, she shared her story of trauma and child...

Travel Thursdays: 'Skiplagging' airfare hack under fire again after American Airlines nabs teen trying it. by Silas Valentino A North Carolina teenager was busted and booted from a flight this week after  American Airlines caught him in the middle of a travel hack called skiplagging . The incident revived  a national debate over the practice , which pits customers in pursuit of cheaper air travel against airlines. This travel loophole — in which a flier uses a layover as the final destination to cut costs when booking tickets — has become the ire of airlines who have attempted, and failed, to challenge the practice in court over the years.  Fliers have been skiplagging ever since booking tickets on the internet shifted power toward the consumer. It’s been called “point beyond ticketing” or “hidden city booking,” and articles promoting  how to beat high airfares  have been published periodically for well over a decade.  How to skiplag The skiplag travel...

 How to Start a Story: 11 Tips From Top Editors The opening lines of a story carry a lot of responsibility. They act as an invitation for someone who’s glanced at the first page of your book to either put it back down or keep reading.  Whether you’re just figuring out  how to start a novel , or revisiting Page 1 of a first draft, here are 11 ways to start a story:  1. Craft an unexpected story opening 2. Start with a compelling image 3. Create interest with immediate action 4. Begin the book with a short sentence  5. Pose a question for the reader. 6. Introduce the plot and characters 7. Build a convincing world and setting 8. Do something new with your writing 9. Create tension in the beginning of the novel 10. Put your mind and heart in it 11. Capture your readers’ attention 1. Craft an unexpected story opening Think of the opening to  Nineteen Eighty-Four , or Iain Banks’s,  The Crow Road , “It was the day my grandmother exploded.” Of...

Travel Thursdays:  This Tiny Town in Idaho Has Incredible Hot Springs Where You Can Book Private Pools and Stay Overnight in Geodesic Domes by Evie Carrick PHOTO:  COURTESY OF MIRACLE HOT SPRINGS These desert-bound hot springs are less than two hours from Boise, Idaho, but they feel like they're in nowhere. In a world where travelers seek destinations and experiences off the beaten path,  Miracle Hot Springs  shines. The geothermal hot springs are set in the southern part of Idaho among a cluster of small towns. The springs are found in the tiny town of Buhl, Idaho, which is less than two hours from Boise but feels like another world entirely — the desert landscape is quiet and the pace slow, making it the perfect setting for a relaxing soak. Miracle Hot Springs has four general admission pools at varying temperatures, 15 private pools whose temperature can be adjusted, and VIP pools for larger groups who want a pool to themselves. The water at Miracle...